Dating turkish man

10-Jul-2020 18:01

We passed beautiful waterfalls on unknown country roads before arriving at a small village.

This was traditional Turkey away from the manmade holiday resorts.

It was a sign that his daughter was ready for marriage.

Any man who could knock the milk bottle off the roof could ask for the daughters hand in marriage.

Looking back, I realize my naivety was shining like a lighthouse beacon.

I was 25 years old, single, very naïve and had not considered researching cultural differences that I was likely to encounter.

This is where you have to be careful as many people assume arranged and forced marriage to be the same thing. My husband’s sister was identified as a potential bride for one young man living in the same town.

Ours was a fast paced love affair yet my husband’s sister was traditionally courted because her marriage was arranged.She never had to buy that little black dress and high heels to impress.Every day, I am in Turkey, I learn more and more about my adopted country and it never fails to surprise but as Turkey moves further towards western values and trends, I wonder what will happen to the traditional Turkish dating rituals of the past.After just a few dates, my then to be husband moved in with me but we were considered as living in sin.So we married within six months, perhaps because of pressure from the family to grow up and be adults!

Ours was a fast paced love affair yet my husband’s sister was traditionally courted because her marriage was arranged.

She never had to buy that little black dress and high heels to impress.

Every day, I am in Turkey, I learn more and more about my adopted country and it never fails to surprise but as Turkey moves further towards western values and trends, I wonder what will happen to the traditional Turkish dating rituals of the past.

After just a few dates, my then to be husband moved in with me but we were considered as living in sin.

So we married within six months, perhaps because of pressure from the family to grow up and be adults!

Despite the heat of the summer sun, the women were dressed in long sleeve shirts, traditional flower pants and their heads were covered.