Npr online dating

11-May-2020 09:15

For NPR News, I’m Stephanie Marudas in New York City.

Matchmaking is close to becoming a quarter-billion-dollar industry.

Some singles are giving up on personal ads and online dating services to find true love. Robbins got interested in the profession when she started dating after being widowed. ANN ROBBINS (Matchmaking School Student): Friends that set me up, I would look at them and say, what are you thinking? So I walked away from that whole experience saying there’s just a desperate need for single professional people to meet other single professional people with some dignity and professionalism behind it. MARUDAS: Clampett teaches the class that matchmakers should also coach clients to kiss goodbye any hurdles, like emotional baggage, and to slow down in the race for bed. CLAMPETT: So, when we’re going and immediately sleeping with someone it’s false intimacy too soon.

Instead, they are turning to professional matchmakers for help. MARUDAS: At the Matchmaking Institute in New York City, Robbins and eight other students have come from far away places, like California and Florida for a one-day crash course. And it’s really taking away the effort of the curiosity in getting to know someone and whether they’re right for you or not.

But this year I have a doozy: Rather than winging it in the dating scene all on my own, I have decided to enlist the help of a matchmaker, and here is why.

ROBBINS: He said it would have been a more enjoyable experience if you smelled cleaner and fresher.

Let’s talk about some thing that maybe could change for the future. In an era of online dating, matchmakers might seem old-fashioned but the dollar signs behind them are not.

ROBBINS: ‘Cause the first time I met you, you looked great, you smelled great, you had a fresh look about you. MARUDAS: And perhaps that’s Cupid’s biggest secret: matchmakers just don’t help people find relationships, they also give dating advice, like how to zap bad breath before a good night kiss.

Last year some new friends set me up with my ex-boyfriend. But now that it is over, I still struggle a year later getting back to normal with that group of friends.

With a matchmaker, there are no personal feelings involved—it is simply her profession.

ROBBINS: He said it would have been a more enjoyable experience if you smelled cleaner and fresher. Let’s talk about some thing that maybe could change for the future. In an era of online dating, matchmakers might seem old-fashioned but the dollar signs behind them are not. ROBBINS: ‘Cause the first time I met you, you looked great, you smelled great, you had a fresh look about you. MARUDAS: And perhaps that’s Cupid’s biggest secret: matchmakers just don’t help people find relationships, they also give dating advice, like how to zap bad breath before a good night kiss.Last year some new friends set me up with my ex-boyfriend. But now that it is over, I still struggle a year later getting back to normal with that group of friends.With a matchmaker, there are no personal feelings involved—it is simply her profession.This is definitely my preferred mode of meeting men, but eventually, my happily coupled friends ran out of single men to set me up with.