I called him a cheapskate, stormed away, and went out to meet a friend.I might have waited to talk to him about the beach trip -- not right after he walked in the door.This would bring us closer and open the door for romance.PREPARING TO SAY "I AM SORRY" Saying "I am sorry" can be a scary proposition. We sometimes think someone else should apologize, not me!
But it's really important that we get on the same page about spending and saving money.
The following five questions -- that you can ask yourself -- illustrate how to adopt a I was reading an article online about the 10 best beaches to visit.
It had been a stressful day at work and I was feeling irritated because yet another snowstorm was on its way. As he took off his coat, I told him that I thought we should go to one of the exotic locations featured in the article. I replied that he is never willing to spend money on anything fun.
I could have suggested a more modest trip, not one of the most exotic, expensive options.
I could have expressed my wish to get away instead of labeling him a "cheapskate." I could have stuck around even though I was upset -- maybe call a friend, rather than go out. On a scale from 1 to 5, with 5 being the highest, how important to you is the conflict?
But it's really important that we get on the same page about spending and saving money.The following five questions -- that you can ask yourself -- illustrate how to adopt a I was reading an article online about the 10 best beaches to visit.It had been a stressful day at work and I was feeling irritated because yet another snowstorm was on its way. As he took off his coat, I told him that I thought we should go to one of the exotic locations featured in the article. I replied that he is never willing to spend money on anything fun.I could have suggested a more modest trip, not one of the most exotic, expensive options.I could have expressed my wish to get away instead of labeling him a "cheapskate." I could have stuck around even though I was upset -- maybe call a friend, rather than go out. On a scale from 1 to 5, with 5 being the highest, how important to you is the conflict?For example, some marital patterns that even professionals often take as a sign of a problem--such as having intense fights or avoiding conflict altogether--I have found can signify highly successful adjustments that will keep a couple together.